Tend the fire that your family lives by

The Hearth is a closed circle within The Fathers Guild. It is not a place to perform, posture, or be fixed. It exists for men who are willing to tend their own fire so their families don’t have to feel the cold. Inside The Hearth, we speak plainly, listen fully, and take responsibility for what we carry home. This is a space for steady men doing quiet work. Presence matters. Absence is felt. What’s shared here stays here, and what’s learned here shows up in our homes.

Inside the hearth

  • You don’t need to become someone else.

    You don’t need more tactics.
    You don’t need another productivity system.
    You don’t need to be louder, harder, or endlessly optimized.

    What you need is direction, consistency, and a place to think clearly about the life you’re responsible for.

    The Hearth exists for that.

  • What The Hearth Is

    The Hearth is a year-long, high-trust inner circle for fathers who want to show up calmer, stronger, and more intentional at home and at work.

    It is not therapy.
    It is not motivation.
    It is not a course you binge and forget.

    It is a container for reflection, accountability, and honest conversation with other men who take fatherhood seriously.

  • Who This Is For

    The Hearth is for fathers who:

    Care deeply about their kids and their partner

    Feel the weight of responsibility and want to carry it well

    Know they’re capable of more steadiness, presence, and leadership

    Want guidance without being talked down to

    Value depth over noise

    You don’t have to be perfect.
    You do have to be willing to look honestly at yourself.

  • What You’ll Actually Do Here

    Weekly Reflection

    Each week you’ll receive a short, focused prompt designed to help you think clearly about:

    Fatherhood

    Partnership

    Emotional control

    Work and purpose

    The example you’re setting

    This isn’t journaling for journaling’s sake.
    It’s about making better decisions and noticing patterns before they become problems.

  • Monthly Live Call

    Once a month, we meet live.

    I’ll guide the conversation, offer perspective, and help you reframe what you’re dealing with in real life.
    No performance. No forced sharing. You speak when it’s useful.

    These calls are about orientation, not fixing you.

  • What Makes The Hearth Different

    Most men’s spaces are built around:

    Performance

    Dominance

    Trauma-dumping

    Or endless consumption

    The Hearth is built around responsibility.

    We are not here to fix broken men.
    We are here to refine capable ones.

    This is about becoming:

    Harder to knock off center

    Easier to live with

    A clearer example for your children

House Rules

  1. Confidentiality is non-negotiable.
    What is shared at The Hearth stays at The Hearth. This is how trust survives.

  2. Presence over performance.
    No fixing. No preaching. No one-upping. Speak from your own experience or listen.

  3. Responsibility before advice.
    We look inward before we look outward. If you offer guidance, make sure you’re living it

  4. Consistency is respect.
    Showing up matters. Absence is felt. If you can’t tend the fire for a season, say so.

Carry the fire home.
Insight without action doesn’t belong here. What matters is how this shows up with your partner and children.

✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

  • The Hearth is a year-long inner circle for fathers who want to lead their families with more calm, clarity, and consistency.

    It’s a structured container that combines weekly reflection, monthly live conversations, and small group accountability. It is designed to support real life, not escape from it.

  • No.

    The Hearth is not therapy and does not replace professional mental health support.

    This is a space for reflection, perspective, and responsibility. We focus on awareness, decision-making, and consistency, not diagnosis or treatment.

  • No.

    There are no modules to binge or videos to keep up with. The work happens through reflection, conversation, and application in your daily life.

    This is about orientation, not information.

  • Very little, by design.

    • Weekly reflection: 10–20 minutes

    • Monthly live call: 60–90 minutes

    Optional group interaction as it fits your life. This should support your life, not compete with it.

  • That’s the point.

    The Hearth is built for men with full lives, not perfect schedules. Consistency is developed over time through small, repeatable actions, not intensity.

    You don’t need to show up perfectly. You just need to keep showing up.

  • No.

    You are never required to speak or share more than feels useful. Many men benefit simply from listening, reflecting, and applying what resonates.

    Participation is encouraged, not forced.

  • Other fathers who:

    • Care deeply about their families

    • Take responsibility seriously

    • Want to grow without hype or performative masculinity

    Groups are intentionally small and consistent to build trust over time.

  • No.

    Men of all backgrounds and beliefs are welcome. The Hearth is centered on responsibility, self-control, and intentional living, not ideology.

  • That’s okay.

    You are free to leave at any time. The goal is alignment, not pressure. If it serves you, stay. If it doesn’t, you’re not locked in.

  • Because real change happens through repetition and reflection over time.

    The Hearth isn’t about quick breakthroughs. It’s about becoming someone your family can rely on consistently.

  • Enrollment is limited to keep this personal and grounded. Cohorts are small, and access is intentionally constrained to preserve the quality of conversation.

  • Apply through the link on this page.

    If it feels aligned, you’ll receive next steps. If not, no pressure. The Hearth is meant to be the right place for the right men.

You don’t need to decide anything right now.

Take a breath. Notice what came up as you read this.

If you felt a sense of recognition, not excitement but clarity, that matters.

The Hearth isn’t built for everyone.
It’s built for men who are ready to slow down, take responsibility, and stay.

If that feels aligned, you’re welcome to apply.

If not, that’s okay too. There are many good paths.

The fire will still be here.

The Hearth Application

Please answer honestly and thoughtfully. There are no right answers.