2026 Dates:

July 9th - 12th (fathers retreat)

Sep 24th - 27th (FATHER & SON Coming of age experience)

Travel in on a thursday leave on sunday

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  • "If you are anything like me, you owe it to yourself and to your family to go on this retreat. "

    I knew I wanted to be the best father and husband that I could, but I didn’t know how to become that man.  Don’t worry, Pat figured that out and has developed an incredible way to teach you the skills to become the man you want to be.  While this is the first retreat I have been on, I would be shocked to find another that makes better use of the time.  Pat’s retreat perfectly balances activities, discussions, and individual time in a way where nothing feels rushed or unplanned.  Instead, every moment feels intentionally planned and purposeful, with each one imparting a skill you can implement at home.  My group couldn’t have been comprised of people from more different backgrounds, something that I feared could derail the retreat.  Again, Pat already considered this.  Instead of letting us dwell on differences, Pat brought us all together through our commonality – the desire to be a better man.  If you are on the fence, or even just considering this, please go!  Pat, on behalf of my whole family, thank you for helping me become a better man.

    -Frank Altomare

  • "I cannot recommend this highly enough. Every father, hell, every man, should go on this retreat."

    The opportunity to unplug from the outside world, spend time reflecting in nature, and hang out with a group of quality guys who are in the same boat is invaluable. The Father’s Guild Retreat delivers all that and more. Besides providing the perfect environment for quieting your mind and reflecting, Pat creates a structure that encourages safe discomfort, physical and emotional challenges, and plenty of quiet reflection. During my time at the retreat, I saw lives change irrevocably for the better, including mine.

    -Billy Brown

  • "I came into The Father’s Guild retreat not looking to fix something, but because I wanted to intentionally invest in becoming a better husband, father, and man."

    Life with my wife, four boys, and meaningful work is full and wonderful — but it’s rare to step away from the noise long enough to slow down, reflect, and recharge.

    Pat created something truly special. Through time around the fire, outdoor challenges, quiet reflection, and honest conversations with other dads, genuine connection happened incredibly quickly.

    I left the retreat feeling refreshed, grateful, and excited to return home to the people I love most. I would recommend this experience to any dad who wants to step away from the busyness of life, reconnect with what matters, and continue growing into the man his family needs.

    -Keaton Wersen

3 Days to Reset, Refocus & Return Stronger.

A lot of dads are running on empty. Work. Bills. Emails. Notifications. Always on. Always “handling it.”

Meanwhile, you’re short with your kids. Distracted at home. Disconnected from yourself.

This retreat isn’t a luxury. It’s a reset.A hard stop. A space to breathe, reflect, and reconnect with what actually matters.

Over 3 days, on MY 5-acre mountain property in Santa Cruz, California, we’ll unplug from the noise and get back to the work that matters. the kind that starts from the inside out. find out more below.

what’s involved?

For 3 days, you’ll ditch the phone, leave the noise behind, and step into something real:

  • Journaling that forces honesty. (mostly with yourself)

  • Forging, wayfinding, discomfort, comfort, guidance. A few manly things to wake you up.

  • Sleeping under the stars.

  • Learn to feel a bit. (don’t worry, it won’t be too woo woo)

  • Guided and contained Physical and Mental Stress to help you feel more capable.

  • Fire, sauna, cold plunge. the good stuff.

  • Eat Amazing food

  • Your kids don’t need a zombie dad.
    Your wife doesn’t need a half-there husband.
    you don’t need another “self-help hack.”

    You need space. Brotherhood. Stillness. Challenge.

    That’s what this is.

  • This is for fathers who:

    • Feel buried by responsibility.

    • Want to unplug and remember who the hell they are.

    • Want to show up stronger, calmer, more present at home.

    • A clear vision of the man you want to be.

    • Strength in your body and clarity in your mind.

    • Brothers who have your back.

    • Energy and presence, your family will feel the moment you walk in the door.

2026 Spots are limited to 8 per retreat.
This is not a vacation. It’s not a workshop. It’s a hard reset for fathers who give a damn

Dates are: July 9th - 12th, Sep 24th - 27th

Retreat cost is $2500. Reserve your spot with a $500 Deposit. Or get $300 off if you pay in full.

  • "It brought back clarity, confidence, and drive."

    “This retreat was everything I didn’t know I needed. It was a powerful reset. It reconnected me with nature, community, purpose, with myself, and provided simplicity, depth, and real presence. It brought back clarity, confidence, and drive.

    If you’re a parent, or just a human trying to live with more intention, don’t overthink it. Get yourself into this space. It’s not a luxury. It’s what we need. ”

    -Regis

  • “This was a life-changing experience."

    “This was a life-changing experience. I went to this retreat feeling burnt out and broken. I was physically and emotionally drained. While staying at the Pat Barber resort in the California mountains I met some of the best like-minded people who I now consider family.

    The adventures and conversations helped me rekindle my purpose. I now feel like a much happier and optimistic person and looking forward to
    helping as many people as possible. I should also add that the peaceful environment and the amazing food was a huge bonus.”

    — Nick

  • "Your retreat helped me kick off some great lasting changes. "

    “The true test of the effectiveness of your retreat...what does my screen time look like almost 5 weeks later? This is pretty much how it looks every week...no social media, no phone in bed or in the bathroom, phone charging across the room.

    Your retreat helped me kick off some great lasting changes. Thanks again!”

    — Eric

I guarantee you will come back to your family reinvigorated in your role as father.

$500 Deposit to reserve your spot
Pay in full and get $300 off