A 200K+ community of of dads building strength, connection, and no-regret fatherhoods.

There aren’t many places where men can talk honestly about being dads. Not just the good stuff. Not just the surface-level advice. I’M talking about the real stuff: the weight, the doubts, the responsibility, and the daily work of trying to lead your family well.

THIS ISN’T a program, a content funnel or just a faceless brand trying to sell merch. IT’S a growing, evolving space where men can show up, reflect, push themselves, find connection, and be part of something, with other fathers doing the work.

I focus on: Training the body: because health matters. Sharpening the mind: because how you think shapes how you lead. Opening the heart: because your family needs your presence & love

I’M here to practice, not preach. If you're the kind of man who wants to lead with strength, love with intention, and grow in the process, you’re in the right place. find out more about what being harder to kill and easier to love means, and LEARN A LITTLE MORE ABOUT WHAT TFG IS, AND WHO I AM, BELOW.

I believe being a great father starts with becoming a grounded man. one who can take responsibility, handle pressure, and lead with both strength and heart.

That’s why everything I do IN TFG fits into two buckets:

  1. Harder to Kill: Building resilience, capability, and grit.

  2. Easier to Love: Deepening presence, emotional clarity, and connection.

more than just a tagline, for ME It covers the full spectrum of what fatherhood is. the outer work and the inner work. the strength to carry weight and the softness to connect.

  • Strength. Grit. Capability.

    This is about developing a body and mindset that can handle what life throws at you. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. Not about becoming “bulletproof”, but about being being capable. For your family, for yourself, and for the long haul.

    What’s inside:

    • Training plans that prioritize real-world strength and longevity

    • Nutrition guidance built around energy, flexibility, and sustainability

    • Resources for mental focus, personal discipline, and ownership

    You don’t need to be an athlete. You just need to be the kind of man your family can lean on when life gets heavy.

  • Presence. Connection. Emotional Strength.

    This is the other half of the work. Learning how to show up with clarity, compassion, and consistency. This is the emotional reps it takes to be present in your relationships, not just physically, but with your full attention and heart.

    What’s inside:

    • Weekly journal prompts to help you process, reflect, and grow

    • Self-leadership tools that build emotional awareness and response control

    • Practices for patience, partnership, and parenting with intention

    • Resources on communication, trust and presence.

    You don’t have to have it all figured out. Hey, we don’t either. You just have to care enough to keep trying.

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Pat Barber

Father of 4. Builder. Coach. Vision Guy. Located in Santa Cruz, CA

I’VE spent over 20 years coaching people to be stronger in body and mind. from being a CrossFit Games athlete MYSELF, to coaching everyday folks looking to move and live better. But fatherhood tested ME in new ways. It demanded more depth, more patience, more presence. I started The Fathers Guild Instagram account as a way to process that experience. to say the things most dads are thinking, but not saying out loud.

What began as JUST one guy sharing thoughts has grown into a community of over 200,000 men.