The Hero’s Journey Contract

The Basics:

For 30 completed days, you will focus on:

• Daily Endeavors (Mandatory)
• Weekly Endeavor (Mandatory)
• 3–5 Personal Adventures (Self-Selected)

If you fail an endeavor or an adventure, you will add 1 day of effort. It could take you 50 days or more to complete the 30 successful days. If you fail an Adventure 2 days in a row, you will remove that adventure from your Journey. Below are listed the endeavors and adventures.   

DAILY ENDEAVORS

An endeavor is an earnest and industrious effort. These are Mandatory.

1. Morning Grounding

Wake 1 hour before the household

No phone for at least 1 hour upon waking, preferably 2. 

This time includes one or more of: Reading, Writing, Reciting your commitment

2. Digital Sunset

From dinner until morning:

No solo scrolling, No work (Unless you are a doctor and someone will die if you ignore). No numbing through entertainment. No disappearing into devices. Family shows together permitted

3. No Reactive Speech

If activated, pause, breathe, then handle.

You are responsible for a controlled response. Reactive speech includes blame, sarcasm, negativity, and soft talk. 

4. Daily Ownership Reflection

This can be done in the morning, reflecting on the previous day or it can be done at night, reflecting on the day you just experienced. 

Answer:

• Did I regulate my responses? If not, what happened? What will I do better next time?

• Where did I avoid discomfort? Why did I avoid that? What will I do next time?

• Did I act like the man I say I want to be in my Hero’s Commitment? If not, what happened? What could I do differently next time?

No skipping.

WEEKLY ENDEAVOr

Public Accountability

Each week, you will reflect on your week and post your answers to the questions in our group.

1. What did I do well this week? 

2. Where did I struggle or fail? 

3. What am I correcting or changing for next week?

Growth accelerates when witnessed.

Optional ADVENTURES

Adventures are the exploration of unknown territory.(Choose 3–5)

Choose weight. Choose stretch.

Reminder: If you fail an Adventure two days in a row, it is removed. No shame. Just know that you are not ready for this intensity just yet 

Regulation & Integrity

• Avoid alcohol

• Avoid pornography

• Daily morning breathwork (shooter's choice) 

• Body scan meditation daily

• Ice shower/bath

• Sauna

Physical Discipline

• Train 4–5x per week

• Eat only unprocessed foods

• Measure food (not allowed to do this if you have a history of eating disorders)

• Drink 1 bottle of water

• One long aerobic training effort per week. Long is relative and can count toward your training goal.

• One heavy training day weekly. Heavy is relative and can count toward your training goal.

Relational Leadership

• 10-second hug + “I love you” daily

• Reach out to one friend you haven't talked to in a while weekly

• Meet up with a friend and have a conversation

• Plan 1 intentional connection night with your spouse and execute weekly

Create your own

If you have an idea of something you would like to do, message me about it and tell me what it is, and we can make it happen.