Harder to Kill. Easier to Love.

Sometime around 2015, I was sitting on the couch, reading a powerlifting article.

And in that article, the guy writing it, in all his overly intense glory, dropped a phrase that slapped me in the face in the best way possible:

“Harder to kill.”

I loved it.

It spoke to something primal in me.

Be strong. Be durable. Be capable. Be ready.

Train your body. Sharpen your mind. Build yourself into someone who can carry the weight.

But the more I sat with it, the more I realized…

that can’t be the whole picture.

Because being harder to kill doesn’t mean you’re easy to be around.

It doesn’t mean you know how to love, lead, or connect.

It doesn’t mean your kids feel safe with you.

Or that your partner feels seen.

Or that you’re living a life with depth.

So I flipped the coin.

I asked: What’s on the other side of “harder to kill”?

And the answer came:

Easier to love.

To me, that’s it.

That’s the balance.

One side is resilience, strength, grit, discipline.

The other side is compassion, empathy, communication, humility.

Both are hard.

Both are necessary.

And both are what I want for myself—and for every father I speak to.

So everything I share—from the workouts to the reflections, from the community talks to the quiet reminders—it all runs through that lens:

Harder to kill. Easier to love.

If you’re trying to become both of those things,

You’re in the right place.